Building Strong Sibling Bonds Amongst Foster And Biological Children

Coming into a new home can be an extremely intimidating and nerve-wracking experience for a foster child. Especially if their reasons for being relocated to foster care, were traumatic and sudden. Encouraging positive relationships between your foster and biological children may be challenging at first but incorporating it into your fostering will create fantastic relationships with solid bonds if nurtured well.

Powerful Sibling Bonds

Encouraging positive and strong relationships between foster children and your biological children is vital to creating a happy and safe home. While it is heavily dependant on the ages, emotions and personalities of all of your children, fostering strong sibling bonds is imperative.

Parents set the stage when it comes to sibling relationships. If you are encouraging and open, then you can model something amazing. Moreover, siblings play a vital role in making a new foster arrival feel at home.

Creating strong and positive relationships between foster children and your biological children can benefit both sides. Sibling bonds help children learn cooperation and develop better social skills such as conflict resolution. With sibling bonds comes a sense of connection and belonging that many foster children haven’t felt before. These sibling relationships can often carry over into adulthood and give your foster children the support they need to find success later on in life. Furthermore, children who have grown up with strong sibling bonds are more likely to be more successful and to have healthy and secure relationships with others as adults.


How to Help Build Strong Bonds

There are many ways you can help your foster children and biological children form strong bonds.

Prepare Your Children Before Your Foster Child Arrives

Discuss expectations and make sure your children. know that it may take a while for their new foster sibling to feel comfortable. Brainstorm some ideas, together on how your children can be friendly and welcoming to ease anxiety and build the foundation for a good relationship.

Give Each Child a Safe Space to Retreat to

It is imperative that young people have their own spaces to retreat to and can define their own boundaries. Having a safe space that is just for them will help build relationships based on trust and respect and allow your foster children to go at their own pace.

Take Introductions Slowly

Your children may not get along straight away, and that is normal. Don’t force them to be the best of friends right away. Instead, focus on things they have in common and highlight activities. They could enjoy together to allow them to find their own way and build a bond.

 Create Shared Sibling Experiences

Encourage and plan activities for your children to do together. Having shared experiences creates a bond between anyone, and it will between your children too. Activities such as playing video games, building with toys, or playing at the park together will help develop positive sibling bonds.

Share Family Experiences

Similarly, experiences shared as a family will improve the relationship between foster and biological children. Your children will see the way you act and follow after. The best way for families to bond. Is to try something new together and create memories of an entirely new activity.

Establish New Traditions

Family traditions are essential in creating a feeling of belonging. Starting a new tradition with your foster child will make them feel like they are a part of the family. A new tradition could simply be a movie night on Fridays. Going for a walk after dinner or grabbing ice cream after a sporting game on the weekend.

Encourage Your Children to Help one Another

Encouraging your children to help each other is vital. If your biological child is good at something that your foster child is not. Encourage them to offer help and vice versa. Offering and accepting help can be a vulnerable step that leads to a stronger sibling bond. This will also encourage a nurturing relationship that will hopefully follow them into adulthood.

Help Your Children Talk Through Their Emotions

Allowing your children to talk through their emotions is an important step in helping them emotionally develop. Furthermore, it will enable you to know how they are feeling and what you can do to help. Doing this as a family can drastically improve bonds and create trust. However, don’t expect your foster child to open up immediately. Allow them to sit in and listen to other family members participate. They will join in soon enough when they see the care and respect you share. Being able to share emotions is an important life skill that you will teach them.

Encouraging strong sibling bonds between your foster and biological children is vital. If you are thinking about fostering or have any questions, reach out to Apple Fostering now.


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